Biased Self-Reflection - Relationships


Here are a number of statements that may or may not apply to you. For each statement, select the response that best applies to you. Do not spend too long deliberating about your responses: if in doubt, choose the option that immediately seems most appropriate.

Disagree Strongly Disagree Moderately Disagree a Little Agree a Little Agree Moderately Agree Strongly
1 2 3 4 5 6
1 - Disagree Strongly
2 - Disagree Moderatley
3 - Disagree a Little
4 - Agree a Little
5 - Agree Moderately
6 - Agree Strongly
Statement 1 2 3 4 5 6
To enjoy myself at a party I have to be surrounded by others who know how to have a good time.
In my experience, loneliness comes from not trying to be friendly.
In my experience, there is a direct connection between the absence of friendship and being socially inept.
I feel that people who are often lonely are lacking in social competence.
Maintaining friendships requires real effort to make them work.
If my marriage were to succeed, it would have to be because I worked at it.
It is almost impossible to figure out how I have displeased some people.
If I did not get along with others, it would tell me that I hadn't put much effort into the pursuit of social goals.
If my marriage were a long, happy one, I'd say that I must just be very lucky.
Difficulties with my friends often start with chance remarks.
My enjoyment of a social occasion is almost entirely dependent on the personalities of the other people who are there.
It is impossible for me to maintain close relations with people without my tact and patience.
Often chance events can play a large part in causing rifts between friends.
It seems to me that failure to have people like me would show my ignorance in interpersonal relationships.
I find that the absence of friendships is often a matter of not being lucky enough to meet the right people.
No matter what I do, some people just don't like me.
Making friends is a funny business; sometime I have to chalk up my successes to luck.
It seems to me that getting along with people is a skill.
Having good friends is simply a matter of one's social skill.
In my experience, making friends is largely a matter of having the right breaks.
Some people can make me have a good time even when I don't feel sociable.
Some people just seem predisposed to dislike me.
In my case, success at making friends depends on how hard I work at it.
When I hear of a divorce, I suspect that the couple probably did not try enough to make their marriage work.