Biased Self-Reflection - Relationships


Here are a number of statements that may or may not apply to you. For each statement, select the response that best applies to you. Do not spend too long deliberating about your responses: if in doubt, choose the option that immediately seems most appropriate.

Disagree Strongly Disagree Moderately Disagree a Little Agree a Little Agree Moderately Agree Strongly
1 2 3 4 5 6
1 - Disagree Strongly
2 - Disagree Moderatley
3 - Disagree a Little
4 - Agree a Little
5 - Agree Moderately
6 - Agree Strongly
Statement 1 2 3 4 5 6
In my experience, loneliness comes from not trying to be friendly.
When I hear of a divorce, I suspect that the couple probably did not try enough to make their marriage work.
It is almost impossible to figure out how I have displeased some people.
Difficulties with my friends often start with chance remarks.
No matter what I do, some people just don't like me.
In my experience, there is a direct connection between the absence of friendship and being socially inept.
Maintaining friendships requires real effort to make them work.
It is impossible for me to maintain close relations with people without my tact and patience.
My enjoyment of a social occasion is almost entirely dependent on the personalities of the other people who are there.
I feel that people who are often lonely are lacking in social competence.
If my marriage were to succeed, it would have to be because I worked at it.
Having good friends is simply a matter of one's social skill.
If my marriage were a long, happy one, I'd say that I must just be very lucky.
It seems to me that failure to have people like me would show my ignorance in interpersonal relationships.
In my experience, making friends is largely a matter of having the right breaks.
Some people just seem predisposed to dislike me.
Often chance events can play a large part in causing rifts between friends.
If I did not get along with others, it would tell me that I hadn't put much effort into the pursuit of social goals.
Some people can make me have a good time even when I don't feel sociable.
In my case, success at making friends depends on how hard I work at it.
Making friends is a funny business; sometime I have to chalk up my successes to luck.
To enjoy myself at a party I have to be surrounded by others who know how to have a good time.
I find that the absence of friendships is often a matter of not being lucky enough to meet the right people.
It seems to me that getting along with people is a skill.