Intimacy Avoidance (ECR-R)


Here are a number of statements that may or may not apply to you. For each statement, select the response that best applies to you. Do not spend too long deliberating about your responses: if in doubt, choose the option that immediately seems most appropriate.

Disagree Strongly Disagree Moderately Disagree a Little Agree a Little Agree Moderately Agree Strongly
1 2 3 4 5 6
1 - Disagree Strongly
2 - Disagree Moderatley
3 - Disagree a Little
4 - Agree a Little
5 - Agree Moderately
6 - Agree Strongly
Statement 1 2 3 4 5 6
My partner really understands me and my needs.
I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners.
I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.
I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.
I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.
It's easy for me to be affectionate with my partner.
It's not difficult for me to get close to my partner.
It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.
I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.
I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.
I tell my partner just about everything.
I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.
I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.
I am nervous when partners get too close to me.
I find it easy to depend on romantic partners.
I talk things over with my partner.
I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.
I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.